People often ask me how I’ve helped my children who have visible disabilities have better self-esteem. I say, “I had to learn to feel good about myself first.” Building healthy self-esteem has been a lifelong process for me.
It was during this process that I learned and began using nine steps to build self-esteem.
What Can I Do to Have Better Self-Esteem
Experiencing low self-esteem began during my early childhood. My mom said I was born with my thumb in my mouth. I couldn’t stop sucking it until I was 13 years old. I always received disapproval from my father. This didn’t help my self-perception, and on top of that, I got buck teeth.
Being the tallest kid in my class from kindergarten to high school made me stand out from the other children. In public, strangers often commented on how tall I was. I felt self-conscious and embarrassed all the time.
Although these and other childhood experiences hurt my self-esteem, they also taught me how feeling bad about myself felt.
When I became the mother of two visibly disabled children, helping them build better self-esteem became a priority. Remembering what formed my low-self-esteem helped me with this goal.
The most important step is to build higher self-esteem in yourself.
Building your self-esteem will help you succeed with your goals and create more happiness every day of your life. Overcoming low self-esteem can seem difficult, but when you remember that everyone suffers from low self-esteem in certain circumstances in their lives, you don’t feel so alone.
When you compare yourself to other people and think you don’t measure up, you develop low self-esteem. You foster unrealistic expectations and set yourself up for failure, by focusing too much on your differences and perceived flaws and failures.
9 Steps to Build Self-Esteem
There are many ways to build self-esteem. What works for one person may not work for another. Nonetheless, there are ways to overcome a negative perception of self and create a positive self-view. Following are examples of nine steps that I use that build self-esteem.
9 Steps to Build Self-Esteem.
- 1. Discover and highlight your strengths.
- 2. Accept yourself, the whole package.
- 3. Believe you are enough.
- 4. Be your authentic self instead of pretending in an attempt to please other people.
- 5. Learn to say no and create boundaries.
- 6. Forgive your mistakes.
- 7. Take responsibility for your actions
- 8. Help other people.
- 9. Immerse yourself in whatever you decide to do.
For more information about overcoming low self-esteem read my blog article
5 Promising Steps to Self-Love and Stopping Self-Criticism